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Questions, statements and excuses.
What drives the quality of the results in your life? It is so important to really understand what creates the results that you want to achieve. If you want greater results in life you need to understand that questions, statements and excuses can either create or destroy your future results. Think about it and listen to other people talk around you and listen to their questions, listen to the questions they ask themselves, listen to the statements that they give, and also listen to the excuses they have. It is really interesting when you can start to hear these things in other people because you will start to pick it up in your own questions, statements and excuses.
I hear some amazing excuses like, “I just don’t have the time”, I used to say this, yet when we think about it, everyone has the same amount of time. The only thing that is equal amongst all living things is time. Time is all about prioritization. When you look at someone like Warren Buffet, and depending on the year, he is usually the richest person alive, he earns $23 million per hour. How does he do that when he has the same amount of time as everyone else on the face of the planet? It is normally through his prioritisation. So using a statement like “I don’t have the time” should really be a question of “How can I create what I want?” or “How can I utilise my time better?” or “How can I prioritise my time better?” “How can I delegate more of the things that I want?” Just by changing this from a statement to a question you can create more abundance in your life financially.
That can also happen with health. Some people tell me, “Michael, I’m just big boned, I’m just fat, my mum was fat and I’m fat, that is just how it is.” That is an excuse. It is also a statement and using that will never create a healthy body because you have already told yourself that there is just no other way, it’s just the way that it is. Normally statements are cut off points, they say, “there is no other way, I have already figured it out.” Whereas if you ask a good question like, “How can I create vitality and become energetic?”, “How can I feel more alive and exercise and thrive?” They are different questions compared to, “I’m just big boned,” which is just a statement.
Excuses similar to, “I don’t have the time” are “I don’t have the money”. When someone says they don’t have the money it just means that this is a cut off point and that there is no other way, that’s it, there is no more money. Whereas if you asked, “Am I prioritising my money right?” or “Can I prioritise this over some other things in my life?” “Should I be investing my money more?” “Could I be spending less money on clothes and instead investing in something?” “Do I need to learn this stuff?” Those are different questions and will result in different results in life.
Other excuses I have heard are, “Well you know Michael, I just wasn’t that lucky. I wasn’t lucky, I wasn’t born like that, I wasn’t born that smart.” Heck if I used that excuse I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing right now. I wouldn’t be living my passion if I was using that excuse. I was told I had learning difficulties, that I had ADD and dyslexia, and if I had accepted that as an excuse I could have just walked around and told everyone as a statement, “You know what, I wasn’t meant to be successful because I have dyslexia, I can’t learn.” If I had used that excuse I would have never got the results I had gotten, I had to ask a better question. I started asking better questions by asking,
“How can I create ways around this?”
“How can I create the life that I want?”
“How can I learn and find better ways to learn?”
“How can I find better ways to improve my understanding and learning?” “How can I start to learn how to spell again?”
“How can I learn to increase my focus?”
As I started asking different questions, I started getting different results, and the more that I did that, the more those results became self-fulfilling. They started creating more results, which gave me more results and made me want to study more and because of that it went on and on and on and now I have spent over a quarter of a million dollars on study because I love it. Whereas at school I thought I was going to get nowhere in life because I couldn’t learn.
So look at your life, and ask yourself:
- “Am I giving statements in the areas of my life that I am achieving at a high level?”
- “Am I asking questions in those areas of life that I am achieving?”
- “Am I using excuses or do I blow away the excuses and just use good questions?”
Then go to the areas in your life where you are struggling, that aren’t up to your standards and ask yourself:
- “Am I using different excuses?
- “Am I using statements, which are preventing me from living at a greater level?”
- “Am I asking the wrong questions?”
I remember a client of mine a little while ago said, “Michael, I keep asking myself, why is everything so hard in my life?” Now, what do you think this person’s life was like when she was asking that question? Do you think she was finding simple ways to do things? Or do you think she was finding all the hard ways of doing things to fulfill her own unconscious thought patterns and unconscious beliefs that life was hard? She was struggling. Once we changed her question to, “How can I bring the positive light inside me out to the world to shine?” it created a completely different life for her.
Take the time and write down the areas of life that you are struggling in, the areas of life that you are succeeding in and ask yourself what statements am I using, what questions am I asking and what excuses am I using?
You will find that you are using two completely different strategies. When you align those two, I guarantee that you will get better results or your results will at least increase if you do this task.
This is something that changed my life and sometimes I still get stuck with it so don’t worry about it if you do get stuck occasionally. Sometimes I just catch myself using statements and I say, “That’s a bad statement,” and I change it into a good quality question.
Give it a go.
It’s your time to thrive.
Learn – Love – Live with Mojo