10 HIDDEN Reason’s Why Most People Will DESTROY Their 2016 Goals and New Year’s Resolutions Before the End of January.
- Unclear goals
Everyone knows the importance of goal setting but very few understand the science behind it and the power that comes from clear intentions and creating the future in your mind before it becomes reality. With unclear, generalised or incorrect goals everything else can become a priority and keep you distracted from the things you have been wanting to achieve. This is where self sabotage and emotional destruction begins for most.
Knowing how to set goals correctly and the science of goal setting is a must for anyone wanting greater things in their life.
- Stay in your comfort zone – fear change
In neuroscience, comfort is usually achieved from doing what is comfortable or what is already known. If you continue to do what is already known and comfortable then you can never achieve anything greater than your current way of living.
At my live events, I hear many people say I would do……but it doesn’t feel right. What they are really saying is: “Based on my old way of thinking I cannot create anything greater than what is in my past.”
All comfortable decisions are usually based on old decisions to get you where you are today including your successes and stresses. In order to create a greater future you have to make new decisions, which are usually uncomfortable.
- Be Irresponsible – blame – complain- justify – victim mentality
In life we can only change what we own. What I mean by that is we cannot change past experiences but we can change the way we feel about past experiences. Once a person blames, complains, justifies or makes up excuses as to why something is not their fault, why something is too hard, why nobody understands or why it is easy for others but not you then it is almost impossible to change. Very rarely have I met a happy, successful person who is irresponsible and blames, complains, justifies bad habits or makes poor excuses.
- Think you will figure it out on your own
Those who achieve great things and live happy, abundant and joyful lives usually understand that there is more in life that they don’t know. Truly successful people know to focus on what they do best and then learn from those who do what they do best. If ever I want to solve a problem or am struggling to achieve something then I always look for someone who loves what they do and are great at it, then learn from them. That combination right there is a winning formula for success and ease in life. Trying to figure out problems by yourself all the time or asking for the advice of people who are miserable and living a life of mediocrity is a fast track to a life of pain, struggle, victimisation and stress. DON’T DO IT!
- Overthink everything
This is usually a pattern of those who are scared to make a mistake, fail or who live with a poverty mindset (Those who think there is never enough, those who worry and stress too much).
Understanding how to set goals effectively and the real science of why this is important is a must if you are an over thinker or if you tend to miss out on opportunities frequently.
- Undervalue yourself
Undervaluing yourself, your knowledge, your time, your energy, your resources and your love is common in the 21st century. This is a common pattern if you have low self worth and beat yourself up a lot or feel guilty frequently.
By seeing the value you have within and valuing what I have mentioned above then others will start to value those things within you also.
- Put everyone else first
Putting everyone else before you relates to the above topic of undervaluing yourself as well as low self worth and feeling as though everyone else, everything else and the goals and dreams of others are more important than your own. Usually people will treat a person the way they treat themselves. If you continually put yourself last, most people around you will put you last (unless they also have low self worth, which is common in families and passed down through generations.)
In order to achieve your dreams and inspire others around you to follow their goals and dreams you must put yourself first and not feel guilty about it.
- Start later (tomorrow, next week, Monday)
We have all used these excuses before. Well I know I have. In doing so you let yourself off the hook from stepping outside of your comfort zone and go back to doing what you have always done, even if it sucks and you hate yourself for it.
This is where a coach or an accountability partner are worth their weight in gold. I know I sometimes want to start later, tomorrow or next week but I always know my coaches, mentors or accountability partners are there to keep me on track.
- Tell yourself it’s too hard
Everything is too hard when you expect everything is easy or if you think everyone else has it easy (which is bulls%^t). Training your mind and emotions to stay on track with your goals is like going to the gym for the first time. It’s scary, it seems everyone else is doing great and you are not, your doubts will be high BUT you know you are better off for it. By slowly increasing your weight week after week you start to notice change. Over time you do not realise that you have created new habits that make it seem easy for you. Now new people enter the gym and wish they had good habits like you. But because your goals have increased along with your self belief, training is still hard and it hurts, because you want to be better and do better. At the same time, you are also happy with how far you have come. Everything worthwhile is hard until it becomes a habit but due to the fact that our visions always grow we must get used to the idea of pushing our self and be comfortable with that. If not we live a life of ease, which is disappointing, unfilled, miserable and full of regrets and self hate.
- Let the opinions of others influence your goals and dreams.
Everyone has opinions but they are based on their values, goals, dreams, beliefs, ideas, stories etc, not yours. It is not our job to convince others of our worth by trying to please others. It is our job to inspire others through our actions based on us doing what is right by ourselves. Each time you set off on a new journey to achieve your goals be prepared to throw overboard those who are wanting you to sink. Sometimes this is those that are closest to you. Instead of arguing and trying to prove your goals and dreams matter, just do your thing and show them the way. If others do not like what you are doing with your life and are resistant to your goals then f#$k them. Just do your thing, as you matter. Your self worth is more important than what others value your worth as. Just do your thing.